Who Does What I Manage Chores for a Living, And Heres How My Partner And I Approach Ours

Who Does What I Manage Chores for a Living, And Heres How My Partner And I Approach Ours For most of human history, the way we talk about household labor divisions has rotated largely around heteronormative gender roles. Thankfully, the idea that gender should determine the who does what of housework is (mostly) no longer the world we live in. But theres still no rule book for helping lebensabschnittsgefhrtes figure out how to divvy up household chores the physical, mental, and emotional ones in a way thats fair and equitable.So, what does the division of household chores for modern couples look like, really? In FGBs Who Does What series, we asked readers to complete an exercise in order to share with us the amount and nature of housework they actually do, and how they and their partner decided to divvy it all up.--NameJack Prenter, owner of Chore BlissLocationToronto, Ontario, CanadaRelationship statusDatingWhat type of home (e.g, condo, house) do you have?CondoDo you have any kid s or pets?No--How long have you and your partner been together?2.5 yearsHow long have you been living together?1.5 yearsWhat chores do you do daily, and how did you and your partner decide youd be the one to do them? Please describe.Cleaning the dishesTaking out the trashCooking breakfast, lunch and dinnerMy partner and I divvy up the chores with respect to preference. I do ALL of the cooking, no matter what. I cant remember the brde time she cooked for me I also take out the trash and do the disgusting chores like cleaning the toilet and doing any particularly dirty dishes, which she doesnt like to do. We were able to come to this compromise by discussing it. We created a list of all the chores we needed to do and then wrote our names next to ones that we didnt mind doing.What chores do you do weekly and/or monthly, and how did you and your partner decide youd be the one to do them? Please describe.Cleaning the toiletCleaning the microwave and ovenDoing laundryCleaning the garbage cansLike above, we simply talked about which chores we wanted to do. I think this is the best way to split-up chores because it means that neither of us has to do something we we arent comfortable with. These four tasks tend to be the dirtiest, which she hates and Im not bothered by them.How about your partner? What chores do they do daily, and how did they and/or you decide theyd do them?Tidying up the living roomWiping the kitchen surfacesVacuuming the main walkwaysMy partner does unterstellung tasks daily because they are relatively simple and dont involve a huge amount of dirt. She also works in an office, whereas I primarily work from home, which means that I can do things like laundry and cooking, which she cant do as easily.What chores does your partner do weekly and/or monthly, and how did they and/or you decide theyd do them?Vacuuming every roomDusting surfacesCleaning the bath tub and showerChanging the bed sheetsPutting away clean clothesI do the vast majority of the dail y chores, at least based on the number of hours committed, and therefore she tends to decide to do mora of the weekly and monthly tasks, particularly those that dont involve a lot of dirt.Is the way you and your partner divide tasks similar to the household you grew up in? Why or why not?Yes, its quite similar. My father would usually do much of the cooking because my mother worked later than he did. Meanwhile, she would handle a large proportion of the household cleaning and laundry. In general, both me and my girlfriend share the workload fairly evenly, although we tend to specialize in specific tasks, much like my parents.Whats something you and your partner could improve on when divvying up and completing household tasks? Whats something you feel youre doing well?One thing that we could improve on would be having more flexibility with our tasks. Sometimes I have no desire to cook and it would be nice if my girlfriend could takeover. Likewise, Im sure there are times that she doe snt want to clean the bathroom and in these cases perhaps we could trade chores. On the other hand, Im very proud of how well we share the workload so that neither of us feels overwhelmed.Lightning Round1. Who makes the bed?My girlfriend2. When you go out to eat, who picks the restaurant and/or makes the reservation?Me3. Who makes doctors appointments? Dentist appointments?Both of us4. Who picks up the dry cleaning?She does5. Who keeps track of friends and family members birthdays?Me6. Who pays bills? (Or if you divvy this up, who pays which bills?)She does7. When something in the house/apartment is broken, who makes sure it gets fixed?Me8. Who makes sure the tags on your cars are up-to-date?She does9. Who vacuums?She does10. Who was the brde person to dust something?Me11. Who was the last person to clean your toilet?Me12. Who buys groceries?Both of us13. Who brings in the mail?She does14. Who irons?Me15. Who was the last person to clean out the fridge/pantry of expired items?Me16. Youve been invited to a wedding. Who RSVPs?Me17. When planning a trip, who books the flights? The hotels?Me18. Who planned what you did last Friday night?Me19. Who planned your last date night?Me20. You need a gift for a friends housewarming party. Who buys it?Me--Interested in participating in FGBs Who Does What series? Email infofairygodboss.com with Who Does What in the subject line.